Family Therapy

Family counseling is different than any other kind of therapy in that the entire family is the client. The family functions as a unit and every member is interconnected. Each person has a role they play that leads to maintain balance within the family. Even though this state of balance may not be healthy; it is familiar and comfortable. Some of these unconscious dynamics may have been passed down through generations. Many people feel there is nothing they can do to change it.

“My whole family has always had problems with communication. We just don’t listen to each other. It’s always been like that.  My grandparents didn’t respect my parent’s choices and my parents never listened to me.  I want to be a better parent, but I just don’t know how to be any other way.”

You may feel that you are destined to stay stuck with the way your family has always been. Many of my clients have felt the same way. Whether or not the issue was communication or something else, they just couldn’t imagine being any other way with each other. Here is what they found as we began to look at this together:

First of all, they realized that their communication style was a learned behavior. By becoming mindful of this they came to understand they had the power to learn new ways of relating. Once they became aware of how ingrained patterns triggered automatic responses, they found they really could be different with each other and discovered how to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively all the time.

Family Plans

This is a creative, yet highly practical approach that yields resourceful solutions.  Together, the family designs a plan with each member having significant input.  Each person gets to talk about how they would like things to change and what they need for that to happen. Once you are all working together towards a mutual goal, an atmosphere is created that encourages family members to open up and support one another.  As things begin to change in a positive direction, family members become less defensive, more trusting, and willing to be real with each other.

Deep Healing

Healing takes place when habitual ways of relating are replaced with open and honest communication, empathy, and mutual respect. Rather than falling into the same old patterns, family members establish authentic, individual connections with each other and develop intentional ways of relating.  You begin to enjoy each other’s company again and learn to relate in a loving way.